πͺ ADHD Decision Avoidance LOOP: Why Choices Overwhelm You (and how to fix it!) π
Stop getting stuck in endless indecision and learn ADHD-friendly tricks to make choices with confidence! π οΈ
π₯ You need to pick a restaurant for dinner. You open your food delivery appβ¦ and suddenly, your brain locks up.
Too many choices. Too many possible regrets. You stare at the screen, scrolling endlessly.
Maybe you check social media. Maybe you ask someone else. Maybe you just give up and order the same thing you had yesterday.
Later, you feel frustrated. Why is making even small choices so hard?
π If this sounds familiar, youβre not alone.
ADHD decision paralysis is real.
Even tiny decisions can feel overwhelming.
But why does this happen? And how can you break free?
Letβs dive in! π
π§ The ADHD Decision Avoidance Loop
People with ADHD struggle with executive function, the brainβs ability to plan, prioritize, and decide. Instead of making a quick choice, we:
β‘ Overanalyze β Trying to find the βperfectβ option.
β‘ Get overwhelmed β Too many choices = mental shutdown.
β‘ Procrastinate β Avoid choosing, hoping clarity will magically appear.
This creates a decision-avoidance loop:
1οΈβ£ Trigger β A decision needs to be made.
2οΈβ£ Overwhelm β Too many options, fear of making the wrong choice.
3οΈβ£ Avoidance β Delay, distract, or research endlessly.
4οΈβ£ Relief (Temporary) β No decision = no stressβ¦ until the problem returns.
π₯ Result? Missed opportunities, wasted time, and mounting frustration.
π The βEither-Orβ Hack: How to make faster decisions
Instead of drowning in endless choices, try reducing options to just TWO:
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Option A β One simple, good-enough choice.
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Option B β An alternative thatβs also acceptable.
Then ask yourself:
π "Which one feels better RIGHT NOW?"
π Why This Works for ADHD Brains
πΉ Reduces overwhelm β Less mental effort = easier decisions.
πΉ Bypasses perfectionism β No βperfectβ choice, just progress.
πΉ Creates momentum β Small wins = easier next steps.
π Example: Before & After
Before (Paralyzed by Options)
π You want to start journaling but canβt pick the right notebook.
βShould I get a lined or dotted one?β
βWhat if I hate the paper quality?β
βMaybe I should watch a few more review videosβ¦β
π« No decision. No journaling.
After (Using Either-Or Hack)
π€ Instead, you ask:
βLined or dotted?β β Lined. β Done!
π Decision made in seconds β You start journaling today.
π The key? Fewer options = Faster action.
π§ Why is ADHD Decision Avoidance Loop so intense?
π§ Brain Science Behind It:
π¬ Lower dopamine levels β ADHD brains struggle with motivation & delayed gratification. (Volkow et al., 2009)
β‘ Overactive amygdala β Heightened emotional response to uncertainty. (Shaw et al., 2014)
π°οΈ Time blindness β Struggling to see the long-term impact of choices. (Barkley, 2010)
π‘ Translation?
Your brain resists uncertain decisions because it craves instant clarity.
But clarity comes AFTER taking action - not before.
π 5 ADHD-Friendly Decision-Making Hacks
1οΈβ£ The βEither-Orβ Trick π€ΉββοΈ
Limit choices to just two. Pick the one that feels right NOW and move forward.
2οΈβ£ The β5-Second Ruleβ β³
Count down from 5-4-3-2-1 and decide before your brain talks you out of it. (Mel Robbinsβ 5-Second Rule)
3οΈβ£ The βGut Checkβ Method π€
Imagine choosing Option A. Notice your reaction. If you hesitate, pick Option B.
4οΈβ£ Set a βGood Enoughβ Timer β°
Give yourself 3 minutes to decide. If timeβs up, go with your gut.
5οΈβ£ Make the Decision Reversible π
Tell yourself: βI can change my mind later.β
This removes pressure and makes deciding easier.
π― Action Plan:
How to Break the ADHD Decision Avoidance Loop
β Step 1: Notice When Youβre Stuck
Are you over-researching?
Are you waiting for a perfect choice?
β Step 2: Reduce to Two Options
Narrow it down to Option A vs. Option B.
β Step 3: Use a Quick Hack
Set a timer.
Trust your gut.
Remember: Any decision is better than none.
β Step 4: Take Immediate Action
Click buy.
Send the email.
Say yes or no.
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Step 5: Celebrate the Win! π
Every small decision rewires your brain for confidence & momentum.
π― Quick Cheat Sheet: ADHD Decision-Making Fixes
π Stuck on a choice? Use these quick tricks:
β Reduce choices to just TWO.
β Decide in 5 seconds (before overthinking kicks in).
β Trust your first instinct - your gut knows.
β Set a βgood enoughβ timer (3 minutes max).
β Remind yourself: βI can change my mind later.β
π Less stress. More action. Faster progress.
π Practical ADHD Resources
π οΈ Decision-Making & ADHD
π ADHD & Executive Function Explained
π The Science Behind ADHD Paralysis
π Books
π The Now Habit β Neil Fiore
π Atomic Habits β James Clear
π― Productivity Tools
β³ Pomodoro Timer β Stay on track with focused work sessions.
π₯ Lifeat β Virtual coworking for ADHD focus.
π Final Thought: Action Beats Overthinking
ADHD decision paralysis is not a personality flawβitβs brain wiring. But you can train your brain to decide faster, easier, and with less stress.
π₯ Try the βEither-Orβ Hack today.
π¬ Comment below: Whatβs ONE decision youβll finally make today? π
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Another super helpful article. I like the steps of simplifying options and making a decision. Any tips on moving through the feelings that tend to shut people down?
You are helping me so much, one post at a time! This either-or concept - genius! I'm living in heightened emotional response all the time: my unemployment has run out and hoo boy, it's not cute. I've used some of my hyperfocus, new project excitement to do things like long-term food staple storage and baking my own bread. But sometimes even "dotted or lined" is too hard! But, I know it will be super useful on days I'm more functional. And once I'm employed again, I'm looking forward to being a paid subscriber! I can't do every subscription, but you're the top of my list! π